Much to my sheer disgust, my X feed has recently been flooded by gay and trans men with their bespoke surrogate babies. Their mockery of women and one of the most sacred acts of womanhood is sickening. Sadly, it’s women who have led us to the place where a man will openly chastise their baby for crying out for its momma. ​

For the past six decades, liberal women have advocated for the boundaries of normative sexual relations to be dissolved. Through the modern “technologies” of birth control, abortion, and now surrogacy, feminists have created a world in which sex is reduced to mere biological impulse, disconnected from the gifts those impulses create: babies.

By insisting that cultural norms be loosened on women’s sexuality, feminists relaxed them for everyone. Feminism provided the on-ramp for the acceptance of more liberal sexual ideologies and the legal protections for them. In 2007, more women than men supported legalizing gay marriage, with national polling showing a double-digit gender gap in favor of female support. Support for the new liberties afforded men who identify as transgender women, such as access to female prisons, locker rooms, and sports competitions, skews female.

Modern feminists see women as victims of a patriarchal culture, even though women outnumber and often outperform men in universities, medical school, and many white-collar vocations. Feminism turned “woman” into another marginalized identity and made women eager allies of other so-called oppressed groups based on race, sexuality, gender identity, and class. This intersectional fight against more traditional values manifested itself in popular culture.

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The early 2000s saw a shift in acceptance of homosexuality from the fringes to the mainstream. Shows such as Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Will & Grace, and Sex and the City turned gay men from cultural outcasts to women’s best friends. Gay men offer women the companionship of a male mate without the messiness and confusion that can sometimes result from sexual relations in a nascent relationship. Women often receive emotional support from their homosexual friends that boyfriends, spouses, or even male friends with the potential to become husbands aren’t always well-equipped to provide. “You go, girl,” became a common gay refrain, complete with a snap and a twist.

Indeed, “many women report enhanced self-esteem and feelings of attractiveness as a result of attention from their gay friends,” according to a 2009 study. Rather than wrestle with the challenges of the opposite sex, more women began to seek solace in gay companions, particularly in urban areas, furthering the chasm between the sexes.

The shift in culture and attitudes around sex and sexuality has propelled many women to refuse to accept the sexual and reproductive differences between men and women (see Jennifer Siebel Newsom), as well as their distinctive roles in a family. According to modern feminists, marriage and motherhood are traps created by men, not gifts granted by God. Familial duties are restrictive and demeaning.

Feminists ushered in a sect of women who seemed uneasy with the very essence of being a woman. While the earliest pioneers of the movement may have claimed that men had mistaken and underestimated the nature of women, feminists such as Simone de Beauvoir pushed further to argue that any fixed nature of women is bound to be mistaken. She famously said, “One is not born, but becomes, a woman.” There now seems to be disregard, if not downright contempt, for women’s own bodies and the unique qualities that serve to focus and direct men’s natural sexual urges and deliver life.

Fast forward to a culture that now calls women who sell their bodies for money “sex workers” rather than prostitutes—as if this were a noble career path or something women choose over any other option to support themselves. It’s a twisted world when society believes supporting the degradation of female sexuality elevates women.

We shouldn’t be surprised, then, to discover that many young women no longer perceive value in being female or giving birth. We’ve taken what makes women special and precious and reduced it to nothing more than body parts that can be easily sold, exchanged, or mutilated, ushering in an era of commodification of babies. In that void, men have stepped in to replace women. Ironic given feminists’ screeches against the patriarchy.

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In one of the viral videos, we hear the gay partner chuckle and say, “You have two choices” to the baby, commenting on the baby’s decision between “dada” or “pop.” He’s wrong. There are at least three options that would renew the primacy of motherhood, the dignity of women, and the irreplaceable role they fulfill in society.

First, advocate for policies that renew the natural family. Every child is created by one man and one woman and deserves a home that preserves the connection to both their father and their mother.

Second, repeal all “so-called” gender-affirming care for minors. No puberty blockers. No cross-sex hormones. And certainly, no medical interventions such as mastectomies. Also, no removing children from homes whose parents refuse to concede that their child is the wrong sex.

Lastly, ban surrogacy for homosexual couples. Full stop.

This list is by no means exhaustive, but it’s a start.

The erasure of women will not stop until women stop participating in it. Reclaiming womanhood means defending embodied reality, motherhood, and the truth that women are not interchangeable—and never were.