There is a saying, apparently from Oregon, that you do not know
how big a tree is until you cut it down. It is a human tendency not
to value something until it is under assault or lost.
I never would have thought about the American tradition of
personal responsibility in any systematic fashion if it were not
being attacked as broadly as it is. The same thing happened to me
with regard to religion. I came to religion in large measure
because I have seen what happens when it disappears. I came to
realize that there is no alternative to. religion, morally and in
many other ways. That is why, though I am a Jew, I hold that a
post-Christian America is a frightening prospect. I know that when
Christianity died in Europe in the twentieth century, Communism and
Nazism arose in its place.
Who would have thought about personal responsibility so much
were it not for the present onslaught against it? I will therefore
address the onslaught more than I will the specific tradition. But
I begin with the tradition.
The American Ideal of Individualism
Why was the United States founded? The noted liberal thinker,
Arthur Schlesinger, Jr., in his book The Disuniting of
America-about "multiculturalism" and the balkanization of
America-made me aware of how to formulate a concise answer.
Ask the average American today what is unique about the American
idea, and I doubt you will get a coherent answer. The last
generations of Americans have failed to transmit the worth of our
society-just as, incidentally, most Jews and Christians of the last
generation failed to transmit the worth of their respective
religions. Nearly all people take things for granted-back to my
opening thesis. We assume that since things have gone well until
now, they will go well in the future. Yet, Trotsky was right: we
need a "permanent revolution." Every generation has to
rediscover-though not necessarily reinvent-the wheel, morally and
ideologically. You cannot rely on the fact that because parents do
something, their children will. The fact that you play Mozart
beautifully on the piano guarantees nothing about your children's
love of Mozart, let alone their ability to play it. Parents and
educators need to teach each succeeding generation the unique worth
So, too, parents and educators need to teach each succeeding
generation of Americans the unique worth of America. By and large,
they have not.
What is unique about our society? The United States was a
socieiy founded on the almost unique belief that who your ancestors
are is far less important than who you are. This was a
monumentally important belief about the worth of the individual. Of
course, there was a terrible exception in practice-the attitude
toward blacks. The idea of the supreme worth of the individual
rather than of his ancestry was violated in the case of
the African. But holding values and violating them was
hardly unique to many of our country's founders. It is true for all
of us. We all have ideals that we do not fully practice. But I far
prefer to live in a society that says "Thou shalt not steal," even
though people violate it, than in a society that does not say "Thou
shalt not steal."
We need ideals even though people do not always practice them,
and even though advocating ideals means that people will inevitably
be called hypocrites when they do not live by the ideals that they
profess. Hypocrisy, when so understood, is a positive thing. It
means that at least you have a value that can render you
hypocritical. I therefore have very little problem with hypocrisy.
The only alternative is for there to be no ideals. Only then could
no one be a hypocrite.
Our society was founded on an ideal: Who your ancestors are
doesn't matter; who you are matters. You rise or fall
on your achievement or your failure. That and economic opportunity,
which is a result of the American individualist ideal, are the
primary reasons why America has been the world's most popular
magnet to people from every culture. That is why immigrants often
say that they are more comfortable here than in their native El
Salvador, their native Nigeria, or anywhere else. That is why,
historically, we tended to attract individualists who wanted to be
judged not by their ethnicity, geography, or race, but by who they
Now, of course, this value, like any value, can be taken to an
extreme. And it is when people have no attachments at all and
become atomized individuals. That is one reason why a part of
America suffers a terrible plague of loneliness. As a talk show
host for 12 years, I have become aware of this widespread
loneliness from my callers. The number of Americans who have no
attachments to anything-not to a religious group, not to a stamp
club, not to a musical society-is large and rising. That's the dark
side of individualism-the sundering of ties to any group. By the
way, I am convinced that animal love in America has reached the
point that it has reached because of this lack of human
attachments. For many people, their greatest bond is with an
animal. It is nice to have pets, but when pets become "animal
companions," we have crossed a threshold. It is important to
remember that every blessing can have its curse.
To return, our society was founded on the value of the
individual, and that is a major reason many of us love it. Our
ancestors moved here not just because it was economically
advantageous. After all, why do people line up at American
embassies more than at Swiss, Saudi, or Japanese embassies? Saudi
Arabia and Japan are richer per capita than America is. But these
people know not only that they can make a living here, but also
that they could fit in. Because whatever their color, race, or
religion, it is often better to be in America.
As Orlando Patterson, who is black and a professor of sociology
at Harvard, has noted, a black has more political and social and
civil rights in the United States than anywhere in Africa. It is
also true about an Arab. An Arab coming to this country has
more rights than he or she does in nearly any Arab country.
Speaking from within my religion, Reform and Conservative Jews have
more religious rights here than in Israel. It is ironic, and yet it
is a fact. And I note this with enormous respect for Israel's
extraordinary democratic achievement.
That people can feel not only free, but comfortable, no matter
what their family background, race, ethnicity, or religion, is a
unique achievement in human history.
In Who Prospers? an important book by Lawrence Harrison,
the author asks why North America prospered while Latin America
didn't. He lists a number of reasons. Among them is what he calls
"familism." In Catholic Latin America, as opposed to Protestant
North America, people had felt that they could trust only members
of their family, not the stranger. In the United States, on the
other hand, blood ties were less important than anywhere else on
That doesn't mean family didn't mean much in America. But it did
mean, for example, that if you wanted to start a business, it
didn't have to be with your son or your brother-in-law. As I read
Harrison, I thought about Iraq today. Saddam Hussein's tyranny is
built largely on clans and relatives. They are the only people he
can trust. The head of internal security, Iraq's official torturing
agency, is related to Saddam, and so on. It has been like this
throughout most of the world-but not in the United States. In the
United States, thanks largely to the Protestant tradition, the
individual was sacrosanct.
Along with this individualism came individual responsibility:
Just as I am rewarded for my good behavior, I am accountable for my
bad behavior. This belief was a result of the individualism just
described and of the Judeo-Christian ethic that also animated the
founders of this country. Essential to Judaism and Christianity is
the notion that you are accountable for your behavior-to God,
This has been under attack. I remember reading
about a liberal Reform rabbi whom the Los Angeles
Times quoted as saying that "God is not judgmental." Now, that
is a quite remarkable statement for a rabbi. If Judaism taught
anything, it is that God judges all people all the time. Indeed,
the holiest day of the Jewish calendar, Yom Kippur, is also called
Yom Ha-Din, the Day of Judgment. For on this day, God judges
not only each Jew, but every human on Earth.
According to Maimonides, the codifier of Jewish law, one of the
thirteen principles of Judaism is that there is reward and
punishment for human behavior. In other words, we are responsible
and accountable for what we do. I often imagine a modern-day,
responsibility denying liturgy on Yom Kippur. Instead of reciting
the long list of sins contained in our traditional liturgy, we
would say, "For the sin of my society for making me do this; for
the sin of my socioeconomic environment for making me do that ...
in fact, God, please understand that I am not personally
responsible for any sin that I committed. There is no such thing as
personal sin, only social injustice, so I do not even know what I'm
doing here. I think I'll go home and eat."
American individualism and the Judeo-Christian notion of
personal accountability gave us the extraordinary nation that we
The Death of Stigma
One source of the onslaught against
personal responsibility and accountability is secularism. As a
secular individual in a secular, multi-ethnic society, to whom will
I be accountable? Without a religious code, a religious community,
a God, or a homogeneous secular ethnic community, to whom am I
responsible? Obviously, only to the authorities--but what if I can
elude the authorities?--and to myself.
In America today, much of society holds
that we are responsible only to ourselves. We have interiorized
everything: We-nothing outside of us-and how we feel--not
how we behave--are all that matter in assessing us. As a
result, we are witnessing the death of a very important socializing
A New York Times article several years ago reported that
the out-of-wedlock birth rate in Harlem was 89 percent. But what
was most remarkable about the article, especially considering its
source, was that it gave as one of the reasons for this high
illegitimacy rate the lack of stigma over being a single
The lack of stigma is by no means only applicable to inner-city
black life. It has become almost universal. Do something bad today,
and not only do you not suffer stigma, you may become a national
media star. The murderer of John Lennon has been interviewed on one
of the most respectable national television interview shows. Tonya
Harding is becoming a movie actress. Kids are trading O.J. Simpson
Stigma means personal accountability to society's standards. It
is society's way of declaring something wrong without sending you
to prison. In lieu of laws, we have stigma.
Of course, stigma, too, can have a terrible side. It can be
misapplied. For example, people used to suffer stigma for seeing a
psychiatrist. But the answer to wrongly applied stigma is not the
abolition of stigma; it is correctly applied stigma. Unfortunately,
however, when something important is done wrong, instead of doing
it right, people often drop it. That is what has happened with
religion. Many people, aware that much evil has been done in the
name of religion, have concluded that religion is unnecessary. But
that is no more appropriate a response than dropping medicine is
the appropriate response to Nazi doctors having performed horrific
experiments without anesthetics on human beings. The fact that
there are evil doctors means that we must rid ourselves of evil
doctors, not that we must rid ourselves of medicine. The fact that
there are people who murder in the name of God means that we must
teach goodness in the name of God, not get rid of God and religion.
The fact that stigma was often misapplied does not mean we can do
away with stigma.
Responsibility Only to Self: Feelings over Behavior
Without accountability to an outside authority or standard, and
without stigma, the only remaining responsibility is to self
Self-which may have once meant one's conscience but now simply
means one's feelings-has become for many people the one standard of
behavior: If I feel good, the act is good. I have no accountability
to anyone or anything but my feelings.
I'll never forget how in the 1960s, when I was in high school,
one day I picked up the New York Post, which at the time was
excerpting a book titled, I believe, How To Be An Assertive
Woman. That day's lesson was for a woman to go into as many
stores as possible and ask for change of a $20 bill. The point was
that though you do not need the change, asking for it will teach
you how to make demands on people. I wondered at the time: What if
many women followed this? Wouldn't that annoy a great many people
who work in stores? But it didn't matter to the author of this
book. The fact that you would drive storekeepers crazy didn't
matter. What mattered is that you are feeling good about yourself.
You, the new assertive woman, only have to answer to yourself.
The incident I have most often cited to illustrate the rise in
feelings-based values happened to my oldest son. Once, when he was
two years old, a five-year-old bully walked over and threw him to
the ground. The bully's mother frantically ran over to her son,
held him, and said, "What's troubling you, darling?"
I know nothing about this woman, but of one thing I was
certain-that she attended graduate school. I am certain of this
because hers was a learned response. Most human beings would have
yelled at their child "What are you doing?" and probably would have
punished the child. You need many years of an American liberal arts
education to learn that the proper response to a bully is to ask
the bully what is troubling him.
"What's troubling you?" means that your feelings, not your
actions, are what are most important.
We monitor personal feelings more than personal behavior. This
completely undermines personal responsibility for the obvious
reason that personal responsibility means responsibility for our
behavior. Therefore, the more we preoccupy ourselves with
monitoring our feelings and motives, the less we will be concerned
with personal responsibility. This exaggeration of the importance
of feelings was recently manifested by film director Oliver Stone,
who was quoted in The New Yorker in August 1994 as saying
that the difference between thinking about murder and committing
murder is "not major."
I suspect that I am not alone in caring far more about how
people act toward me than how they feel about me. We
care about how our closest friends and relatives feel about us. But
concerning the rest of humanity, we only care how they treat us. If
a waiter is nice to me only because that's his job, that's fine. I
do not expect to be loved by waiters. If deep down he doesn't
particularly care if I "have a nice day" but acts toward me as if
he does care, that's fine; it adds to the level of decency in
society. I much prefer it to a waiter who acts true to his
feelings- "You know, frankly, sir, I can't stand you and all the
other people who come into this restaurant and who make much more
money than I do."
The fact is that we rarely care about others' feelings; we care
about their behavior.
The primacy of motives and feelings, though, is an important
characteristic of modern liberal thought. That is why Marxism and
socialism have had such a better reputation in modern, secular,
liberal life than capitalism. Capitalism is rooted in selfish
motives. Socialism is rooted, for the most part, in idealism, even
perhaps in altruism. Yet, capitalism has produced far more
altruistic societies than socialism and Marxism. "To each according
to his needs, from each according to his ability" is far more noble
sounding and beautifully motivated than "the profit motive." I
learned from the capitalism/Communism difference not to judge
motives, but to judge behavior.
Yet, we have raised a generation to value and monitor their
feelings rather than their behavior. High school seniors all over
the country, like Oliver Stone, believe that what you feel is
almost no different from what you do. I have repeatedly asked them
this question: Imagine two wealthy men, equally wealthy in every
way. Each is approached by a woman whose daughter has cancer. The
woman explains that without more money she cannot afford an
operation that will save her daughter's life. Upon hearing the
woman's story, one of the men began to cry and, in the midst of his
tears, gave the woman a dollar. The other man did not cry. In fact,
he had another appointment and therefore couldn't even stay to hear
the woman's entire story. But being a religious person who felt
obligated to the biblical law of tithing, he gave the woman fifty
dollars. "Who," I ask the groups, "did a better thing?"
Overwhelmingly, students answer, "The one who gave the dollar,
because he gave from his heart."
It is a profound illustration of how behavior has come to matter
less than feelings. And since only feelings matter, how can you be
responsible for your behavior?
Incidentally, whenever I have asked the question to poorer kids,
they all vote for the $50 man. But it is not usually the poor kids
who will set the agenda in our country. It is the kids at Beverly
Hills High School, who vote for the one dollar man, who will attend
the Harvards and UCLAs and ultimately go into the media and
political positions that will set the society's agenda. And they
tend to value feelings over behavior. But you can't pay for surgery
with tears. You can't pay for a meal with sympathy. That is why the
man who gave $50 did a 50 times better thing. That is the only
God may judge hearts, but humans must judge actions. That is all
we can judge, because none of us always knows our own motives, let
alone the motives of others. We are a mixture of so many
If someone discovers a cure for cancer of the pancreas because
he wants the Nobel Prize for medicine, do you care? You care that
someone who has cancer of the pancreas is now going to live.
This belief that motives and feelings are what matter destroys
personal responsibility. America is becoming a feelings-based
society. That's why the mother asked, "How do you feel?" to her son
the bully instead of worrying about that later and yelling at him,
at the moment he bullied, "Never do that again. I do not care how
depressed you are. I do not care how socioeconomically deprived you
The Battle Against Religion
One consequence of the war on personal responsibility is that
those who do judge behavior are called the worst thing you can be
called today-judgmental. Here is how it works:
Personal responsibility means you could
be judged guilty.
We never want to be judged guilty.
So we must stop people who make such
We stop them by calling them
The desire to escape judgment and personal responsibility is a
large part of the reason for the widespread anger at religion in
America. Let's analyze this anger for a moment. If anybody should
fear the Christian Right, it would be, of course, a non-Christian.
Yet, I am Jewish and do not fear the Christian Right.
It is an interesting question to ponder: Why is there so much
fear of the Christian Right in the United States? After all,
Christianity in America did not give us the Crusades. Christianity
in America does not have a history of inquisition. Christianity in
America has largely been tolerant. Why, then, all the fear about a
religious resurgence in America?
The answer is largely that religion has something that is
anathema to the modern flight from personal responsibility-a higher
code whereby we can say, "You're guilty. You're wrong. You are
responsible." That is the ultimate reason for the fear of religion
in America and why that fear is felt so often by those opposed to
personal responsibility and accountability. Religion comes with the
baggage of judgment. It judges your behavior. And that is what the
ultimate cultural battle is about: Is all behavior acceptable, or
is there such a thing as sin?
As an example of the social/moral importance of God and a
religious code, I frequently cite this story. During the riots in
Los Angeles, our family watched the looting-some of which was
happening blocks from our house-on television. At one point, I
looked at my then-nine-year-old son and said, "Look, those people
are getting away with taking what they want. Would you loot if you
could get away with it?" He said, "No," which I expected.
I was interested in his response to the next question. "Why
not?" I asked him. "Because it is against the Ten Commandants," he
replied. I then knew that every penny I spent on his Jewish day
school was worth it.
As I wrote in Ultimate Issues, the quarterly journal that
I write, while my son gave the answer that I wanted, most educated
parents would want a different answer. Of course, they, too, want
their children to say that they wouldn't steal even if they could
get away with it, but they would want a different response to the
second question: "Why?" They would want their child to answer,
"Because I feel (or think) it is wrong." That's the difference
between the religious/hierarchy-of-authority view and the liberal,
secular/no-hierarchy-of-authority view. It is the Kohlberg scheme
of moral excellence versus the Judeo-Christian. The highest level
of morality in secular thinking is that you feel it is wrong. In my
religion, which I know best, it is the opposite.
Judaism has a remarkable statement in the Talmud: "A person who
does something because he is commanded [by God] is greater than one
who does something without being commanded." This runs entirely
against the modern outlook which holds that the highest good is
good done not out of obligation, but because one feels it is good.
What could be more noble than doing right from inner feeling? The
answer is that, for the good of society, it is far preferable to do
what is right out of obligation to a higher authority. If we rely
on everyone doing what he or she thinks is right, we are finished,
unless you believe in the innate goodness of humanity, which no
great religion believes in.
This is a very important distinction. I do not want to rely on
what people feel is right. I've seen the result. It is called a
I did a television show in Cleveland with students from six high
schools of different ethnic, racial, religious, and socioeconomic
backgrounds. I asked them, on camera, "How many of you would
shoplift from a department store if you really wanted something
badly and were certain you wouldn't get caught?" Virtually every
student, rich or poor, white or black, raised his or her hand. What
amazed me was not so much that they would, but that they raised
their hands on camera. Now, why would they raise their hands
on camera? Because there is no stigma. Some people of my generation
also would have shoplifted from a department store, of course. But
they never would have raised their hands on camera. What if their
parents saw? What if neighbors saw? Teachers? But today, "Hey, it
doesn't matter; that's how I feel." That's all that matters.
In 20 years of asking high school seniors, "Would you save your
dog or a stranger first if both were drowning?" one-third always
vote for the dog, one-third always for the stranger, and one-third
always find the question too difficult. That's no longer what
interests me. It is my second question that interests me. I ask the
students who would vote to save the person, "Would you say that the
students who voted to save the dog are wrong?" Not one student in
all the years I've asked this has ever said that the students who
would save their dog first are wrong. Their argument is always the
same: "Listen, I personally feel that I should save the person, but
they feel they should save their dog."
So, then, how could there be any personal responsibility if all
that matters are me and my feelings, since I am then accountable to
me and only me? Not to society. Not to God, a religion, parents, or
teachers. To no one. That is what has happened in America. That is
why there is moral chaos. Feelings are all that matter, not
behavior. I cannot be judged, and I cannot judge you. That is the
way we've raised a generation.
Redefining Tolerance to Mean Approval
As defined by one major dictionary, "tolerate" means "to allow
without prohibiting or opposing; to permit." As now redefined,
"tolerate" means "not only to permit, but to approve."
Let me touch on what I believe to be the most difficult
contemporary example-homosexuality. I believe that, except for
incest, we must tolerate any consensual sexual behavior among
adults. I also strongly believe that any dismissal of the humanity
of a homosexual person is immoral; a gay person is created in God's
image, just as is any other human being, and is as likely to do
good as any other human. But while I must tolerate homosexuality
and honor the personhood of the homosexual, I do not have to say,
"I honor same-sex love as the equal of male-female love."
It is virtually impossible to hold such a position today,
however. Tolerance of homosexuals without full acceptance of
homosexuality renders you a "homophobe," and discussion is thereby
ended. If you state that male-female love should be society's
ideal, you are deemed so morally inferior as to be unworthy of
Now, there are indeed anti-gay bigots, and it pains me deeply
that a human would judge another solely by his homosexuality. But
we have a right to judge sexual behavior even while tolerating it
and respecting the individual. And I do judge it because of the
tradition I come from. My Jewish religion says that male sexual
love should be confined to one female and to marriage and that
there are varying degrees of wrongful deviation from that ideal,
some of which are less significant, like consenting adult
premarital sex, and some of which are more significant, like
adultery, incest, and, yes, homosexuality.
I am stuck with a code, if you will. Without that code, what
would I care if people slept with the same sex?
Whatever your position regarding homosexuality, however, the
fact remains that the new meaning of tolerance-approval-is another
attempt to do away with personal responsibility.
Opposition to Failing
The onslaught against individual responsibility takes yet
another form-opposition to competition. Personal responsibility
means that just as you have the right to succeed because of your
actions, you will be able to fail because of your actions. In
America today, however, there is a movement to have no one
One example is grades: At some universities today, a student
cannot get a failing grade, and only rarely will he or she receive
a poor passing grade. The thinking is: "We do not want to judge
your behavior as a student; we only want your feelings about
yourself to be good. If you get a D or an F, you may feel bad."
Competition is dismissed as a bad, macho thing. The liberated
person is against teams or individuals competing. We should learn
only to cooperate. The fact that excellence can almost never be
created without competition is denied.
That is why there is a war against excellence. Excellence means
that I am graded-and being graded, like being judged, implies that
I am responsible for what I do.
The war against the possibility of failure has a more
significant upshot. It is part of the reason for the support of a
welfare state. In his important book, Dead Right,
conservative writer David Frum makes this point well: If the state
will support me, why be personally responsible and save money?
I was raised with middle-class values such as, "You better save.
If you make money, put some of it away. There may be a rainy day."
The modern attitude in America is that when there is a rainy day,
others should, and will, supply umbrellas. In the meantime,
therefore, borrow and spend as irresponsibly as you want.
This opposition to personal responsibility was recently
manifested in the arguments for national health care. Its
proponents argued that preexisting medical conditions should not be
considered an issue in obtaining health insurance. But if that is
the case, why ever buy insurance? I will purchase insurance only
once I get sick. It is another form of relinquishing personal
responsibility-"I do not have to plan while things are going all
right for me." Now, of course, it is a problem when people have
preexisting conditions from childhood; and there are other areas
that need reform. But think philosophically for a moment: If a
preexisting condition cannot be a factor in whether you get
insurance, why get insurance until you get the condition?
No One Is Guilty
Yet another battle against personal
accountability/responsibility is the battle against guilt. No one
is guilty of behavior: If you steal, you are the product of
socioeconomic forces; if you're 15 years old and get pregnant, it
is because there weren't enough condoms and you didn't get a good
enough sex education in school; if you murder, it is because you
had too easy access to a gun and/or because you were raised in a
This attitude prevailed during the Cold War. The same people who
blame guns as much or more than they blame criminals for crime in
America blamed the Cold War on nuclear weapons more than on the
Soviet Union. But as I pointed out then, if nuclear weapons were
the problem, why didn't anybody fear French or English nuclear
weapons? We didn't because it wasn't Soviet weapons that worried
us; it was Soviet values.
Some of us actually judged the Soviet Union. And some, like the
journal Psychology Today, did not. When the Soviets shot
down the Korean airliner, it editorialized that it was an
act of "paranoia," not an act of aggression. Few are guilty.
This was an example of another way of undermining personal
responsibility--psychologizing actions rather than judging them.
Rather than good and evil, there is healthy and sick. For example,
men who rape are often labeled sick. But they are not all
necessarily sick. They may be normal-but bad. It comes as sad news
to many modern women-men are by nature rapists. "I like woman, I
take woman" is male nature. The reason that most men do not rape is
because they hold values that forbid them to, not because it is
foreign to their nature. There are armies that rape and there are
armies that do not rape, and the armies that rape do not do so
because they consist almost entirely of sick men. The soldiers of
the Red Army were not all sick. But they did have 28 years of
nihilism in their country. A generation was raised with no right
and wrong, just Communist Party notions of what is
I would go farther and argue that some good acts are sick. What
if the daughter of an upper-middle-class couple in America said,
"You know what, Mom and Dad? Thanks for spending all that money so
I could graduate from Yale. I'll be going to Calcutta to take care
of the dead and dying for the rest of my life." Her parents would
think she was a bit sick. They would probably respond, "We think
you need some advice, honey, some counseling. Then you'll decide on
Picking up the dying and dead is, of course, what Mother Teresa
decided to do. Maybe she is sick. This is not meant hyperbolically
or rhetorically. Extraordinary self-sacrifice may not be
I do not know if the blacks who beat Reginald Denny were sick.
And I do not know if the blacks who saved the lives of non-blacks
during the Los Angeles riots were all normal. We cannot know
exactly what normal and sick are, but we can and do know what good
and evil are.
We have substituted normal and sick for good and evil, and that,
again, means no personal responsibility. How can you be held
responsible if you did what you did because you are sick?
Race, Gender, and Class Determine Behavior
The war against individual responsibility has taken another new
form called Race-Gender-Class. Our universities have substituted a
new trinity for the classic Trinity of the past. For Christians, it
was the Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost; for the educated
elite, it is Race, Gender, and Class. Personal behavior is
determined by my race, gender, and/or class, not by my values and
my free moral will. It is therefore not possible to make a moral
judgment about antisocial behavior by members of selected races, by
"the poor," or by women (especially when one person combines all
three identities, which explains the widespread feminist
understanding for Lorena Bobbit's mutilation of her husband's
On my television show, I recently debated a UCLA professor of
education. He kept protesting, "Who are you to say that there is
one standard of behavior? You're a white male. You do not know
about victims." Finally, I responded angrily, "Please do not
lecture me on victims; one-third of my people were put in gas
chambers one generation ago." He was taken aback because he did not
know that I was Jewish. Until then I was just a white male, but now
I had victim status, so I had a great deal of clout.
James Baldwin, the black novelist, once said that sometimes,
when he gets into an impish mood at a cocktail party and wants to
find out quickly which whites are racist, he says some particularly
stupid thing, and any white who tells him how brilliant it was, he
knows is a racist.
That is why I consider liberal racism the most dangerous and
pervasive form of racism in America today. Of course, there is
right-wing racism. And it is evil. But it is obvious and relatively
rare. Liberal racism, however, is more pernicious because it is far
It is very simple to define. When whites in Germany burn down
Turkish homes, they are called Fascists. When blacks in Los Angeles
burn down Korean homes, they are called misunderstood. This is a
terrible insult to a black person. It says: "We think so low of you
that we do not hold the same moral criteria for you that we do for
others." That is the liberal message of the last generation to
blacks, as it is to Hispanics regarding their intelligence: "Every
generation of immigrants to America had to learn English, but
you're so intellectually inferior that we will have you learn and
study in Spanish." I read no other meaning in bilingual education
than a view that Hispanics are less intelligent than Russians,
Poles, Germans, and everybody else who came to this
There is no one standard to which all people are
accountable any more. And that's what Race-Gender-Class does. It
Compassion Rather than Standards
Finally, you can have responsibility only if you have standards.
I mentioned this earlier with regard to a code of ethics-if you're
not responsible to a God or a religion or some code above you, you
cannot be held responsible for your behavior.
There is one other way in which we have obliterated standards,
and therefore responsibility. We have substituted compassion for
standards. Whenever there is a conflict in America between
compassion and standards, compassion wins lest, again, we judge
you. I was a guest on a national television show, and all the other
guests were single women who chose to become mothers. I had a
feeling of what the Christians felt like with the lions: I was on a
national talk show where I was not allowed on the first segment of
the hour show. The guests were three highly attractive, highly
intelligent women with their lovely kids. The host was female, as
was virtually the entire audience, which agreed with the women
about how beautiful it was that they decided, not having found a
man, to have a kid. And then I was introduced: "And now, someone
who thinks they're wrong." For that alone, however, my appearance
was worth it, the word "wrong" not having been uttered on
television talk shows since Phil Donahue started his first
Then Darth Vader Prager entered the scene and was asked, "Do you
really think these women are wrong?" I put every ounce of charm I
have ever been endowed with into my answer and responded, "Yes, I
Yes, I think it is wrong because I think that children should
have the fight at least to begin life with a mother and a father.
If there's divorce, if there's abandonment, if there's death, what
are you going to do? But to start out with mommy and test tube
doesn't strike me as being as good as mommy and daddy.
My wife and I have single women friends who are torn about this.
They are dying to get married, yet cannot find a man to marry, and
they are dying to have a child before they can no longer conceive.
Anybody who does not feel compassion toward these many women is not
fully human. But to empathize with pain and feel compassionate is
one thing, and to drop standards is another.
Gays, too, are in pain. Not to acknowledge that pain is not to
be fully human. But to say then that because they are in pain
society should have no preference for male-female love as the
society's ideal is as wrong as to say that because the single
mother is in pain we have no preference for children being born
with a mother and father.
The government is on the brink of establishing new national
adoption rules. According to these new rules, same-sex couples will
be allowed to adopt as readily as opposite-sex couples. That is
simply incredible. Even Denmark, which allows homosexual marriage,
forbids homosexual adoption. We will be the only society on Earth
to say that we have no preference for children to have a mother and
father. To say that a mother is unnecessary, or that a father is
unnecessary, is so obviously untrue that it needs to be explained
by a larger agenda. That agenda is to prefer personal rights-I want
a child-to social responsibility-a child should be given a mother
To demand that people take personal responsibility for their
behavior is extremely difficult. It doesn't come naturally to any
of us. Perhaps the case for it can best be made by using other
words to describe the assuming of personal responsibility. Those
words are "growing up."
A sample issue of Mr. Prager's quarterly journal, Ultimate
Issues, is available from 10573 Pico Blvd., Los Angeles, CA
Dennis Prager writes Ultimate Issues, a quarterly
journal of his views on life, has daily radio talk shows on WABC in
New York and KABC in Los Angeles, and does a nationally syndicated
daily television show, "The Dennis Prager Show," which appears in
146 cities. He also is co-director of Empower America.
He spoke at The Heritage Foundation on September 20, 1994,
as part of the lecture series "Sweet Land of Liberty: Strengthening
America's Culture," sponsored by the Henry Salvatori
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